9 things you should know before getting into a relationship with a girl who has always been single
Not every girl’s mission in life is to find the perfect man. There are some girls who wish to stay free for a longer time, who want to spend most of their life in striving to become completely independent, who feel like having a guy by their side till a certain point in their life would be a liability and not a privilege. So when this girl finally decides that she’s ready to date and actually chooses you to be the lucky guy, then make sure you know these things about her:
She isn’t looking to find her other half
She never was and she never will be. She takes pride in the fact that she’s a complete and independent human being. She doesn’t need you to pay for her meals, she doesn’t need you to drive her around, she doesn’t need you to buy her expensive gifts and she doesn’t need you to act like her one true saviour. What she does need from you is to treat her as a partner and not an inferior being, to let her be her own person and to respect the fact that she is here to share all the responsibilities of your relationship equally.
Her support system is incredibly amazing
The fact that she’s never had to focus all of her time and energy on one specific person has given her the opportunity to invest it in the people who have been with her since forever- her family and friends. She has always been there for them in the good times and the bad, and they do the same for her. So when you came into her life, you became a part of her huge support system, not the one sole member of it.
She has learnt how to be dedicated and passionate about everything in life
We can’t really say whether the fact that she’s a passionate and dedicated individual compelled her to stay single or the other way around. But whatever the reason might be, she has grown to seize every opportunity that comes her way, she puts her heart and soul into any work she takes up and she can never just settle with being ordinary.
So, don’t expect her to be your typical girlfriend and don’t expect her to make you the center of her life. Help her achieve greatness, help her fly, help her be extra-ordinary and she will inspire you to do the same.
She is capable of endless love
We always assume that if someone doesn’t want to be in a relationship, then they’re probably just dead inside, they don’t really feel anything at all and they’re not capable of giving their love to anyone. This is a huge error of judgment! What we don’t understand is that this person is capable of even more love than the typical girl.
She has the courage to love herself, to love her own life, to love all of her family and friends, without having the assurance that there is at least one guy who is there to love only her. And when she finally decides to choose you, to make you her partner and to share her romantic side with just you, it will be more amazing and unconditional than any love you’ve ever experienced.
She’s not looking to be saved
She isn’t looking for a knight in shining armour or this one true saviour and protector to come into her life and take all of her troubles away. No, she’s perfectly capable of doing things herself and handling any stress that comes her way. Don’t try to force your masculinity on her and don’t treat her as anything less than an equal in all aspects of your life.
She fears, sometimes, that she’ll push you away
One of the reasons she has stayed single for this long is because she could never come to terms with the fact that people just leave sometimes, without regrets, without any specific reason and without a warning. She’s learnt to stay cautious around people and to make sure she doesn’t upset them in any way. So, it might take her longer to truly open up. It might take her longer to show you her real and raw side, but I can promise you this- she will be worth the wait!
She is well aware of all the sides of a relationship, the ups and the downs
Just the fact that she hasn’t been in a relationship doesn’t mean that she has no clue about what they’re like and how to handle them. Her neutrality on this matter makes her everyone’s favorite go-to person. She has seen her friends cry and scream about that guy who cheated, she has seen her sister become the happiest person alive at the things her partner did, and she has seen some relationships just fade away with time.
Her experience has actually surpassed all, she got to learn from other people’s stories and she actually gives the best relationship advice.
She will need her alone time
In all this time that she was single, she got very used to being on her own. She enjoys doing things alone and she needs time where she can stay comfortably silent with her own thoughts for a while. So don’t ever take it personally if she asks for some alone time, give her all the space she wants and try to understand her needs. That’s what will make her love and respect you even more.
You don’t want to rush anything with her
It’s no surprise that she likes taking things slow. It took her half her life to be ready to date, so don’t expect her to tell you she loves you just a month later. Give her time to adjust, to realize things on her own and to reveal all of her feelings to you. Because when she finally does, it will be better and more amazing than anything you ever expected!
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